How can I get my partner to stop smoking marijuana if he doesn’t want to?

January 5th, 2009 | by Jeff Trikoleti |

We’ve been together for 4 years, he lived in a different city for 3 years and when he moved in with me he quit smoking. 6 months later he started again, once a week. Now he’s at the point where he wants to smoke 24/7, the problem is though that his personality has changed he’s been back on it. He’s selfish and inconsiderate, angry and nuts out over nothing, has NO respect for me and we fight all the time. This is only since he started smoking again. He wants to smoke so badly that he would have cheated on me so I’d leave him if I hadn’t of busted him when I did. He says he’d choose weed over me and doesn’t want to stop because he enjoys it. I really am worried for him though because the person he has become isn’t nice and if he keeps going the way he is, he won’t have anyone. All his friends smoke too and they’re happy enough to complain about him to me but none of them have the guts to tell him what they think and they continue to smoke with him. I’m nearly at my wits end, our relationship is crumbling down around us and the thing that is causing all the problems he won’t put a stop to. Leaving him isn’t an option, I’ve tried that once and couldn’t cope.
Thanks everyone! I think I already knew that I have to leave, I just didn't want to admit it. I've told him its me or the green, he's gonna use the next month to cut down then quit. So if he doesn't follow through wih it, then sadly its over.

Unfortunately, you cannot change a person, they have to want to change. If he chooses smoking over you, well then, I guess he has made his choice. It will be one of the hardest things you may ever have to do, but leaving looks like the only logical option. When someone is that far addicted , no one can bring that person back unless they want to. For your sanity and well-being, and for his potential to eventually quit, you have to leave. Maybe he will wake up and see that you are more important than smoking. If not, it is better to have temporary grief than a lifetime of unhappiness.

  1. 6 Responses to “How can I get my partner to stop smoking marijuana if he doesn’t want to?”

  3. By noccie on Jan 6, 2009 | Reply

    You can’t change another person’s behavior.
    Your relationship is poor, and you can’t leave him? Breaking up is hard to do, but sometimes it’s the only sane answer.
    Get out of that relationship, he’s a bum and isn’t going to go any where in life.
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  4. By Sam on Jan 6, 2009 | Reply

    “”He’s selfish and inconsiderate, angry and nuts out over nothing, has NO respect for me and we fight all the time.”"

    give him a final choice..marijuana OR u ..whts more important to him in his life..
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  5. By jenna r on Jan 6, 2009 | Reply

    Unfortunately, you cannot change a person, they have to want to change. If he chooses smoking over you, well then, I guess he has made his choice. It will be one of the hardest things you may ever have to do, but leaving looks like the only logical option. When someone is that far addicted , no one can bring that person back unless they want to. For your sanity and well-being, and for his potential to eventually quit, you have to leave. Maybe he will wake up and see that you are more important than smoking. If not, it is better to have temporary grief than a lifetime of unhappiness.
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  6. By sightbringer on Jan 6, 2009 | Reply

    I would leave him. If he is inconsiderate of you and everything else you explain, I would leave him. If you can’t “cope” then you need to see someone to help you get through it. He is not worth that much stress if he is going to be considering cheating on you, etc.
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  7. By tiffany on Jan 6, 2009 | Reply

    changing someone is almost if not impossible… ask him to do it for you, or try to cut back. if he loves you enough he will at least try… but also look at it from his point of view, would he ask you to give up something that you do everyday?
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